Mom is the word .....

A few months ago my mom in law and step father in law moved in with us in there own flat our yard .

I never knew how much i would love it till i tried it .

What we did not know was this year was a different year all together .......

We were all living in harmony with each other until tragedy hit us ... on 10 April this year i got a horrible phone call from my mom in law saying " Oupa Chris cant breath " i went blank called my friend to find out what the ambulance number is when right in front of me was google ..my friend told me to put it on my security whats ups groups which i did and people of all walks of life responded to our emergency.  After all that my stepfather in law had a major heart attack and died.  That day it shook our family very hard as we loved Oupa Chris dearly.  My hubby's own father has also been sick with the dreaded Motor Neuron disease which we all know does not have a cure as yet .  As i was being with my mother in law and brother in law and husband supporting them i asked my mom in law if she is ok and her words was I am a mom I am ok.  those word hit me hard as I am a mom and I have to be strong for my kids as they have lost a Oupa that they loved dearly. So we arranged the funeral and paid our respect as well as we could to our "Oupa Chris,... just for another tragedy to hit us 3 weeks later the 4 May i was still waiting for my friend to pick me up for work from our Daymother when i got a message from my hubby saying" Dads gone" i was so " deurmekaar" that when my friend picked me up that i told her that i must go to work and my friend said no i am taking you home , which she did.  When i got home my mom in law opened the gate for me and i had to break her heart yet again  that her ex-husband passed away in his sleep and she held me and said I will be here for you guys as your were there for me as I am a mom.

I have never seen such a strong woman in my life she has been thru a very rough time in her life yet she was still there for us even thou she was also grieving for both the men.

I dont have my mom with me anymore as my mom died when i was 21 years old but since then i have became a stronger person and when i met my hubby's mom we just clicked and she has been there for me from the 1st day i met her and she has never left my side. She has taught me how good a mom I want to be.

So if you feeling down remember you are a Mom and remember who is looking up to you.  I am not saying dont cry , crying is good and it makes me feel better I am sure you know what i mean.

It's why every sappy commercial brings us to tears. It's why we can't watch the news. It's why we get in the car and cry after we drop our kids off to their first day of school. It's why our hearts ache when we hear about miscarriage or fertility problems. It's why we are up at night worrying about our kids. It's why the thought of our children eventually leaving the nest makes us weep into our coffee. It's why the death of another mother's child is so utterly heartbreaking . . .

It's also why we should always provide a blanket of support to all fellow moms. Not only to those who are suffering through or going thru a unimaginable pain of losing a child, but also to those mamas going through plain ol' rough times . . . and even those moms who are just having one of those days. Hug her, and if you are struggling to find the right words, all you may really need to say is, "I know, I'm a mom."

But you probably already know this. After all, you're a mom.