C-Section awareness month .. moms are warriors no matter what type of birth you had !

 So my youngest sister in law gave me a topic last night to write about so here it goes....

When me and my husband got married we wanted to fall pregnant very badly and we struggled i wont lie we got married October 2004 and fell pregnant with Jody in May 2006.  I did not know i was pregnant as we just bought a house and we were doing kitchen over as i needed to keep busy as i know if you take your mind off of it it will happen. And only God knows when you ready to be a parent. So one Friday morning in May Dolf asked me when last did you have your monthlys so i said to him wow i really cant remember ,so he said dont you think we must get a pregnancy test so, i said to him ok but we must not get out hopes up . He went and got the test and it was still old ones that has the pink and blue lines and it showed nothing not pregnant and also not not pregnant , so he suggested that we go and get bloods taken which later that afternoon we did. So the nurse that was taking my blood asked me do you want to be pregnant and i said to her yes with my whole heart... so she said she will contact me the saturday and let me know. Long story short Saturday morning came Dolf went to work. At about 930 am that morning the nurse phoned me and said guess what you are 6-8 weeks pregnant I was over the moon, the first person i wanted to call was my mom but i could not do that as my mom passed away in 2000. So i phoned mother in law and told her the news she was very happy , Dolf said i should not phone him at work and wait till he gets home. When he stopped at home that day i can still see his face my nephew and his girlfriend was here to share the good news ... I said to him guess what one of these days you gonna be a dad .. he was like confused at first then he said you were pregnant and he was ecstatic. So when we went shopping for our baby we did not want to find out the sex so i use to walk to the boys stuff hubby use to walk to the girl stuff . I use to think i cant do the girl mom thing and i did not like pink. So every gynae appointment went well and baby was healthy and growing and at about 6 months gynae asked me what is my birth plan and i said normal birth i suppose i have not even thought of that i was just so exited to feel the baby kick and move inside my tummy . So the doc broke the news to us that the baby had the umbilical cord around the neck even showed us on the sonar. Every time the cord got to tight around the baby's neck baby would pull it and my navel will go in was actually amazing to see it that my little human knew already that if something hurting you move away .

So Doc told us if we want to give normal birth he has all the tools to handle it but he suggest a c-section .... i was terrified of loosing our baby that we have been waiting for so long so me and Dolf agreed that will be the better option .  

So the big day arrived and Dolf took me out for breakfast as that would be the last time that it would be just the 2 of us...after 515 pm that day we will be a family of 3.  We went to the hospital got booked in and then got all settled in the room then the most horrible thing ever had to be inserted was a catheter ,o goodness just thinking of it makes me naar....after that the shaving as i could not as i could not see my bloody feet , then it was the epidural , now i have always been afraid of needles so needless to say that i asked them not to show me it but while i was laying my head on Dolf chest so the doctor could inject me Dolfs facial expression said a lot . All he said was i take my hat off to you .

So the nurse said to me lay down which i did and about 5 mins after that she asked me if i could move my toes and i could not , was the most weirdest feeling ever i could only feel my boobs and my arms.

So the gynae came in and asked me how i am feeling i said good and they put the green sheet infront of me so Dolf was with me the whole time and they started cutting and the whole time Dolf is saying " Babes u ok you cant feel anything right? And i really just felt my body moving a bit but i could really not feel anything.  And then the most beautiful noise ever our baby's cry when she came out Dolf cut the umbilical cord and showed her to me they weighed her and then Doc said Dad now you can go with Baby and we stitching mom up to go to recovery .

When i got to my room the nurses brought Jody to me , my mother in law and father in law was very pleased with our little bundle . I was just making sure she had 10 fingers and 10 toes and i said to my father in law i am sorry its not a boy as my husband is the only one that can carry on the family name and my father in law kissed me on my forehead and said she is the most beautiful girl in the world .

I was so inlove with my little girl i could not give her back to the nurses to put in the nursery as i wanted to hold her the whole time , which i did not think mommy needs sleep .  The next morning i called the nurse to ask her to come remove the catheter so i can get up which she did, wow what a relief. She told me to stand up straight as otherwise the pain will get me down and that i must walk a lot so which i did and i never asked for pain meds(please note i am not a young mom i was 27 when i had my daughter and and 35 when i had our son)

which the nurses though was incredible as other moms that had same as me were in terrible pain .

I have a scar and that is fine but i have 2 beautiful kids that i would not trade for the world even thou they get their moods and tantrums i will do it all again the same way as i still love my kids and have a bond with them even thou i had a c-section.

So dont think o if i have a c-section you are less of a mom cause your not you just thought of your babies safety before baby was even born and that makes you a warrior .

So no matter if you gave normal birth or c-section you still love your baby's with all your heart and would do anything for them give your last breath for them.